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| Author: Antony Xavier |
Everything you have ever wanted in life is on
the other side of fear
I want to share with you today about a very important topic that you and I would have experienced at least once in our lifetime “Rejections”. When we face Rejections in Life, we all have many Questions that run through our mind. Why I am a failure, why is it happening only for me? And lot more questions.
I would like to quote here a verse from the Bible. Mathew 21:42 says “The stone that the builders rejected has become the cornerstone”. Remember that even God was rejected multiple times by his own people and by his own disciples.
A recent
meta-analytic finding on brain says that the ventral and dACC in Brain are most
consistently involved in reactions to rejection. Several
specific emotions arise from the prospect or presence
of rejection, including hurt feelings, loneliness, jealousy, guilt, shame, social
anxiety, embarrassment, sadness and anger.
We all learn lessons in life. Some stick, some do not. I have
always learned more from rejection and failure than from acceptance and
success.
Rejections are the most common emotional wound we sustain in
daily life; we face Rejections in School, College, Office, and Society and at
times in our very Home. Our risk of rejection used to be limited by the size of
our immediate social circle. Today we are connected with known and unknown
people through social media platforms life Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn
etc. each of us are connected to thousands of people, any of whom might ignore
our posts, chats and texts [and photos save us feeling rejected as a result.
In addition to these kinds of minor rejections, we are still
vulnerable to serious and more devastating rejections as well. When our spouse
leaves us, when we get fired from our jobs, snubbed by our friends, or
ostracized by our families and communities for our lifestyle choices, the pain
we feel can be absolutely paralyzing.
Whether the rejection we experience is large or small, one thing
remains constant - it always hurts, and it usually hurts more than we expect it
to.
The greatest trap in our life is self-rejection when we have
come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then
success, popularity, money, and power are easily perceived as attractive
solutions. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, I find myself
thinking rejected, left alone, or abandoned, "Well, that proves once again
that I am a nobody." e.g. [My dark side says,] I am no good… I deserve to
be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the
greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice
that calls us the "Beloved." Being the Beloved constitutes the core
truth of our existence.”
Rejection is a Key ingredient to creativity and success.
If you are failing it means you are trying, I can quote lots of
people from history that were rejected for what they are. I would like to
mention here about one person whom I really inspired. He is Jack Ma. “Founder of
AliBaba”. Jack Ma was rejected 30 times when he applied for a Job. In one
of the Job he applied 24 people were interviewed 23 got selected and only he
got rejected. He Applied to Harvard and got rejected 10 times.
Finally, I would like to summarize by saying Believe what are
you doing. Do what you like it whether people like it or not.
Life is not the box of chocolate; you never know what you can
get. I will not feel rejected even if nobody likes this write up, but I will
continue to improve.
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